30 November 2013

Love Story part two. The good part.

Welcome back. Before the break I had just been breaking up with my old boyfriend. Matthew seemed to be paying attention, because the week Cory left for college was the week Matthew called to ask me out. At first it was a double date to the zoo, but the other couple backed out last minute and all of the sudden it was just him and I. What was uncanny about this date was that I was working a crazy schedule and he happened to ask me out on a Monday when I was off. Who asks somebody out on a Monday?? Turns out he had overheard me explaining my crazy schedule to somebody else and had made a mental note that that was the day I was free! Months later I also learned that he had wanted to ask me out much sooner, but Cory had approached him at the beach trip and told him to back off because he "wanted a shot." 

Anyways, the timing wasn't the only uncanny thing about this date. It was simply the best first date. Ever. We were super relaxed about it (notice: he didn't shave and I wore a ponytail) but maybe that's why it was so perfect. He just seemed so familiar to me from the music he listened to, to the work he did, to how he drove. On the way there I let him have a drink of my coconut water and he rolled down his window and spit it out all over his truck while we were driving. "Coconut water?!" He said, "Might as well call it booty water!" This wasn't the awkward/uncomfortable first date that is so common, it literally felt like we were long lost friends just catching up. When we got there he had me pretend to be his wife in order to get discount tickets. Later we were talking and he asked if I had heard some of the rumors about him (eesh). When I told him that I had he looked surprised and said "um...well why did you agree to go on a date with me??" and we proceeded to have a truly real conversation in which he let me know about his past, the truths vs the lies, and all the changes he had gone through. Towards the end of the day his hands started hovering around my waist until I let him hold my hand as we walked around and looked at the animals. But at the end of the day he dropped me off, gave me a quick hug, and left. To me, it was a strange ending to a perfect day. I was fully anticipating a kiss because from what I had heard...he kissed every girl who gave him an opportunity! So when he didn't I felt like that let me know for sure he didn't like me. 

Whenever I wear that bow or cardigan now he gets excited and says "You wore that on our first date!"

That night I hung out with my friends and they scolded me for even going out with him. I nodded while they talked but I knew that they were wrong. Whatever happened next, even if he never spoke to me again, I now knew that he was a good person. A good, sensitive, brave, refreshing, funny person and nobody could ever make me believe otherwise. 

He didn't text or call me for a month. This gave me further evidence that he didn't like me.

To this day I have no idea what happened during that month, but one day he just woke up and decided that something was missing from his life - and that something was me. I got a call and he asked if we could  get lunch together. The next day he wanted me to keep him company while he ran some random little errands. Again it was like we had known each other in some past life and we were simply picking up where we left of. We didn't bring up our first date, we didn't ask each other why neither of us had called the other one, we simply became best friends overnight. Every day we were either together or texting/on the phone from the moment we woke up until we fell asleep. He gave me my last first kiss on our third date, sitting in his truck eating gelatto. It was dark and quiet and we both knew that it was about time, so my butterflies were going crazy. All of the sudden he just kissed me without warning while I still had gelatto in my mouth! I'm pretty sure I laughed. Good thing our second kiss wasn't too far behind, and it was far less awkward haha.

But even though I had strong feelings for him, I couldn't tell if he was a good choice or not. Come to distract me from work and school and my elaborate life plan that did not involve him. I worried about it for a second, but then I decided that a "what if..." later on would be far more painful than a broken heart now. I was truly happy every moment I was with him, and that was invaluable to me because I wasn't sure I would ever be truly happy in a relationship again after my past experiences. He had been asking me to meet his family for days but my hesitation had stopped me.  The night I agreed, we walked in the front door and saw that everybody was already sitting around the table eating. It was obvious they had no warning that I was coming, but they quickly grabbed another chair and served me up a plate of cold food. I sat directly across from his dad, who also happened to be the stake president, and he asked "aren't you that one girl who raised her hand when I asked the YSA congregation who the next person to get engaged would be?" I laughed and said yes, and the irony of the moment was delightful to me when it should have been painfully embarrassing. I decided to treat his interview like a challenge or a game and I surprised myself with how confident and comfortable I was around all these new people. Honestly, it almost felt as if I already belonged...but  don't know if that's destiny talking or if they are just really good hosts haha. As I looked around the table into each face, I wanted nothing more than to know these people better. The next week, on February seventeenth, I called Matthew on my lunch break (per usual) and he told me that he thought we should give the whole official dating thing a shot. Since February 17, 2012 I have happily been his.

The difference between him and every other boy I had ever dated was that we both knew. Almost immediately. Six days into our short relationship I prayed about him and was falling asleep when I noticed this dull thudding sound. It got louder and louder until my eyes sprang open and I realized it was just my heart POUNDING inside of my chest. I knew it was an answer to my prayer but I couldn't tell if it was saying "run away!" or "go for it!"...until I was sitting at church with him the next Sunday and started feeling the same thing. It only happened whenever I thought about him and I in the future. That was when I realized it was a "yes. this is it." answer. There was still so much I didn't know about this guy and I found myself being intimidated by how strong this answer was coming and how soon! The only thing I could do was keep praying and being assured that this was my guy while letting my feelings grow at their own pace...which happened to be exponentially. 

A couple of weeks later is when we started dancing around the "L word." 
(Even though he technically told me wayyy before then lol)

I already knew that I loved him for a while now (aka since day 6), but it was thrilling to hear him say things like "goodnight lovie" and wonder if he was feeling the same thing. Those three words were officially spoken for the first time after he had walked me to my night class and we were standing outside the door saying goodbye. He had been trying to say it all day and I could see that he was getting frustrated that there hadn't been an opening. Finally outside my classroom he said it, but it was so last minute that I had no choice but to turn away and walk inside. I literally only had .5 seconds to respond (before my teacher locked me out), and I didn't want this moment to be crammed into that time frame. So he had to suffer the hour and a half of silence and it wasn't until we met up later that night that he finally got his "I love you too". When we said it that day we meant it. We knew it was real and we knew it was forever. 

We are sharers. The day he asked my dad for my hand I was fully aware, and the very next day when he spent 10 hours creating the perfect ring for me I was also fully aware. I know it seems like this method is way less fun, but I loved hearing him voice his every thought to me during the entire process. It was his first time as well as mine, and he was nervous so he couldn't help but tell his best friend everything. I thought for sure he'd get down on his knee and throw it on my finger the very next time he saw me but he didn't...it was the day AFTER that, thank you very much! Haha. He asked me to go the beach where we had had one of our dates but I told him no. Then he asked me to go to the gelatto shop where we had our first kiss but I said no again.... I felt like he felt the pressure to put on a show so that made me uncomfortable. He finally got the idea and simply asked me one Monday right before class, same way we did any of the other major milestones in our relationship. 

The rest is history.


karajean said...

Wait, why did you say no to the first two date plans? You didn't want him to propose like that?

Stacia, the Homey Owl said...

I think it's adorable that you wanted him to propose just like you two handled other milestones. Engagements should reflect the couple and be meaningful to both parties. My husband lied to all of my friends/family and proposed to me the day before he told all of them he was going to (I wanted it to be small and a surprise, lying to all of them kept them from spilling the beans by accident.) We had our secret 24 hour engagement and then he planned a big proposal involving all of our friends for the next day. Almost none of them know to this day, but we had a great time being secretly engaged for 24 hours, even though I had to keep giving him back the ring whenever we were around people. haha

Whitney M. @ The Married Me said...

You make me wish I had kept better records of my dating history with my husband! So many memories lost into oblivion.

Autumn Duke said...

This is the sweetest little love story! You are such an adorable couple.

Rebecca Mashay said...

This is precious. Yall are so cute! I love reading your blog. :)

If you get a chance, please check out mine! thanks :)


Ashley R said...

Aw, this is so sweet. :)

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